Doctors don't ALWAYS have ALL the answers...

Yes, they make the big bucks. Yes, they have the fancy degrees but NO, they don't have all the answers and surely if you're going through this or have gone through this you're learning it the hard way. You sit in a doctor's office expecting them to take your loved one's life in their hands. When in reality, they're just glorified therapists. They can tell you what they "think" you should do. You'll desperately ask the question at least once or twice "What would you do, if it was you?" As a response you'll get "That's hard to say". Not exactly what you want to hear, is it? You'd rather the response "I've waded all the pros and cons and if it was me, if it was my loved one I would ______.". Am I right? Isn't that exactly what we've all been through? What we've all wanted? Sitting in the consultation room is like sitting in a sauna on the game show Deal or No Deal. Your hot (literally and physically), your uncomfortable and when you glance to the side you see a red button covered by plexi-glass. The choice is yours, the decision has to be made. To push the button or not. You go over the pro's and con's one more time. Looking desperately to your audience for any subtle hint. Any answer...anyone? Finally the question...deal or no deal? Do you push the red button and take what's offered? Or do you push the box closed and exclaim "NO DEAL!" ?

After 2 year's (yes, it took me that long) I realized Doctors don't have all the answers. They just have the medical facts. Let me be clearer. They just have the medical facts of the then and now in their own small bubble. Not the future. Am I blaming them? I'm trying not to play the blame game but if you don't blame them, who do you blame?

Moral of this blog. Do your research. There ARE options out there for you, even if the Doctor is telling you there isn't. The Internet is a blessing and has a world of information on it. Research people, do your research! If you need help don't be afraid to ask. I'm sure you know someone who's been saying over and over "If there's anything I can do, please let me know". Well, here is their assignment. Trust me, they would love it and it takes the ball out of your park.