I ran across another caregivers blogg (Deb http://www.myhusbandskindneycancer.com/) today that mimicked my exact sentiments. As I've mentioned Mike has lost a lot of weight in the past six months. He is now down from 186 to 143 and looking frail to say the least. It's been very difficult to watch him loose so much weight and I'm sure even harder on Mike. I couldn't have said or written it better then Deb "As caregiver, I instantly felt responsible for his weight loss, as I continually blamed myself for maybe not cooking the right meals or offering the nutritious snacks that I should have." And although I know that anyone who knows Mike can understand that he is, well, can be stubborn. He's never been a big eater but he has always been picky as to what he does eat.
I feel bad for Mike too. I know he doesn't want this, and I'm sure he would rather be the picture of health.
It's mostly difficult being repetitive. You start to feel more like a mother then a wife. "Did you drink your ensure? What did you eat for lunch? Can I get you something? Craving anything?" Honestly Mikes got enough Mother's. And as much as I hate bugging Mike about eating, I know he hates me getting on him about it. Over and over again!
The resolution:
Notes on the fridge that will read: Hey handsome! Feeling smoothie today?; Baby, Got the munchies this morning?; If your belly's misbehaving stop and fill that cravin!; You en sure lookin good today!
Submit yours and I'll post them around the house too. It can be about anything that might make Mike chuckle...
That's my solution. I'll let you know how it works out ;)
Perhaps some subliminal messages:
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Good Morning, sweetie PIE.
ORANGE you glad it's Friday.
Or a joke:
Why did the lettuce blush? Because it saw the salad dressing =)
Say, "CHEESE!" with a picture of you with your biggest and cheesiest smile!
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